The Decision

The decision to put down a beloved pet can be difficult, especially when you’re uncertain if your pet is suffering. We’d all prefer to find them in their bed unmoving, one morning, and not have to make the call ourselves.  If you feel in need of help you are welcome to ring me, but it might help to look at this page first.

Let’s look at a ‘normal’ old dog or cat. They might gradually have become blind or deaf or both. They might sleep most of the time, though manage a short stretch of legs here and there during the day. They eat, drink, pee and pooh reasonably normally. They’re obviously pleased to see you when you come home.  They might be on various medications long term but are content.  Your vet is happy with them. I’d be happy with them.

On the other hand, your pet may be going through a long illness and you’re uncertain. Perhaps your primary vet has suggested euthanasia after you’ve both done everything you can – they know when they can’t help your pet anymore and it’s downhill now. I’d heed their advice. They mightn’t want to say it but feel that he or she is suffering.  This is the time to have a hard think.  It’s reasonable for you to take your pet home to give yourself time to take it all in and be with them. But don’t wait for too long.

Other difficult decisions lie between these – is your pet suffering and how much?

“He’s a bit better today – he ate some food. Maybe he’s improving.”

“She managed to use her litter tray this morning.”

Small signs of improvement might indeed indicate exactly that, and a ‘wait and see’ approach might  help to assess the situation.  But when there are too many bad days the end is probably near.  Issues such as uncontrolled pain, incontinence, and hind leg paralysis amongst others in elderly pets do cause suffering.

Trust yourself – obey your gut feeling.

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Guilt

“I left it too long with my last pet and she suffered.  I don’t want to do that again.”

“I don’t want to steal his life from him too early.”

Those are words I hear frequently – and understand.

Guilt – the biggest issue for you is when your pet’s demise will make your life easier.  Gone will be the extra work, washing and soiled carpets, sleeping on the couch at nights to be near them, getting help to lift them outside.

Guilt – because you’re taking away a life. 

Guilt – because the pet is a last link to a loved one, and somehow you’ve let them down. And lots of other types of guilt we manufacture for ourselves.

To eliminate guilt from our lives is very difficult, because we are hard-wired to feel it.  But it’s important for our own mental health. See your pet’s life from their point of view – freedom from suffering – and forgive yourself.

It’s hard to admit, but we can be fragile ourselves – “What will I do when Scruff is gone? She’s everything to me.”

This is when we need to be resilient and do what’s right for our pet, even if it causes us pain.

Help can be found, though.  Pet bereavement counselling and pet bereavement podcasts are available, and I include links to some that have been recommended to me by my clients.

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